RESILIENCE Mental Health Practical Tools

12 January 2026 6 min read By James Hamell

What to Do When Everything Feels Too Much

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There are moments when life doesn't feel dramatic or catastrophic.

It just feels too much.

Too many thoughts.
Too many decisions.
Too much pressure to figure things out when you can barely think straight.

If that's where you are right now, this matters:

Nothing is wrong with you.

This feeling isn't a personal failure or a sign you're weak. It's what happens when your system is overloaded for too long.

Why everything feels overwhelming

When stress builds up, your nervous system goes into protection mode. Thinking narrows. Emotions spike or shut down. Everything starts to feel urgent and heavy at the same time.

In that state, your mind looks for answers.

But clarity doesn't come from forcing solutions.

It comes from calming the system first.

You don't need to fix your life right now.

You need to stabilise.

A simple grounding reset

This isn't a solution to everything.

It's a reset. A way to slow the spiral so you can breathe again.

You can do this anywhere.

1. Stop for a moment

Pause what you're doing. Even 30 seconds counts. This is not giving up. It's interrupting the overload.

2. Ground in the body

Feel your feet on the floor.
Notice your breath without changing it.
Name one physical sensation you can feel right now.

This tells your nervous system that you're safe in this moment.

3. Narrow your focus

Don't think about tomorrow, next week, or "everything".

Ask yourself: What is happening right now, in this minute?

Right now, you are breathing.
Right now, you are here.

That's enough.

4. Do one stabilising action

Not the perfect action.
Not the most important one.

Just one small thing that brings a bit of order back:

  • Drink a glass of water
  • Step outside for fresh air
  • Tidy one surface
  • Take a short walk

Movement and simplicity come before insight.

What not to do when everything feels too much

This part matters.

When you're overwhelmed:

  • Don't try to solve your whole life
  • Don't force motivation
  • Don't make big decisions
  • Don't judge yourself for feeling this way

Overwhelm distorts perspective. Anything decided in that state will feel heavier than it needs to be.

A reframe that helps

Feeling overwhelmed doesn't mean you're incapable.

It usually means you've been carrying too much, for too long, without enough structure or support.

This isn't a moment to push harder.

It's a moment to simplify.

Stability first. Clarity later.

A quiet next step

If everything feels too much, your only job right now is this:

Lower the bar.
Slow down.
Take one small, grounding step.

You don't need to see the whole path.

You just need to steady yourself enough to take the next step without collapsing.

That is not weakness.

That is how rebuilding actually begins.